Still Waiting...Hoping and Praying

We are still waiting....hoping and praying. Since the social study was ordered several month ago we have been anxious to "go through the process". When the date for our home visit was scheduled we were counting the days. SEPTEMBER 10, 2009, oh how we anticipated that date.



Well, a few weeks before that much anticipated date we received a telephone call from A.C. (our assigned social worker) to inform us that she would not be keeping that appointment.



WHY, you might ask? She said that she did not want to waste our money, since we had to pay additional money (beyond the fees already paid for the social study) for her expenses including fuel and hotel cost. We knew that she'd already warned us that it might not go in our favor and we wanted to continue the process anyway. Time is not on our side (8 months and 14 days left until Rinda's 18th birthday) and we are desperate to do anything that will be beneficial to Rinda's life and future.

According to the social worker who has already interviewed Rinda's Dad and Rinda's Mother, Rinda is an angry 17 year old and does not want any contact with her father and I. This is not new information, we already knew that. A.C. said that us filing petitions in court has only made Rinda even more mad that she already was.

We have heard from several sources about what an angry person Rinda has become, even for years before we actively began to legally intervene. The obvious question is WHY IS RINDA SUCH AN ANGRY YOUNG WOMAN ? ? ? ?

Does anyone ever question where all that anger comes from ? I'm not an expert, nor I do have a degree in psychology but I DO understand Rinda's anger. ANGER COMES FROM PAIN ! ! ! !

Rinda has plenty of reasons to be angry. Her heart has been held hostage since she was nine years old. Her childhood has been hijacked. One of the most valuable things in her life was taken from her against her will - her dad and all the love, understanding and support that he provided for her life since she was born. Rinda has reason to be angry - her needs have not been met. While she lives in a nice home, in a nice neighborhood and has plenty of material things, Rinda lives in poverty.....emotional poverty.

I have not been given the opportunity to interview yet (that was supposed to happen when A.C. made the home visit), but I have sent a letter to A.C. requesting the opportunity to interview with her in her office at the time and date of her choice.

So far, I haven't received a response to my letter, but I'm still waiting and hoping and praying that I will be allowed to speak with the person that holds Rinda's future in her hands. I've been in this family for ten years. I know Rinda's heart and I know that the investigation into her life will not be complete until all of her "parents" have been interviewed.

It's been a month, but I'm still waiting....hoping and praying.