It's Father's Day again. It is the 10th Father's Day since Rinda was "stolen" from her Dad and I. A year ago, we still had the hope that the legal system would help reunite our family. It didn't happen. The legal system never did help nor will it ever help our family overcome the damaging effects of Parental Alienation. The Family Court System did however enable the situation which harmed our family. Although it didn't cause it, it did allow it and enable it.
Every year I wonder how you feel on Father's Day Rinda ???? Everywhere you turn on that day you hear the word FATHER, you hear people saying my dad this, my dad that, everyone saying Happy Father's Day to their dads. What goes through your mind on Father's Day? It is sad to see a daughter live as though she is fatherless when she has a dedicated father. The only thing your dad is guilty of is of giving in to you and your mother to try to keep the peace for your sake. That is the only thing !!!! Happy Father's Day Rinda !!!!
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
What Gives Me Hope ????
WHAT GIVES ME HOPE ???? *asks a Parental Alienation Facebook friend*
Rinda, the following words are which I chose to use to answer that question.
"The Great Creator gives me hope, every single day. And certain facts give me hope, such as, the fact that when you were little girl, Rinda, you knew without a doubt that your Dad and I loved you unconditionally. You knew, that even though your mother spoke badly of us that we continually refused to EVER speak against her. You knew that we honored her just because she was your mother and the fact that she always would be your mother. The fact that we NEVER did a single thing to cause or to deserve to lose the love, trust and respect of our precious little 9 year old daughter. It gives me hope that you turned 18 years old last week and that eventually you will become an emotionally mature young woman which lives in the real world and will no long be in an environment in which you are being used as a weapon against your Dad & I. The fact that I know your heart and I know that somewhere deep inside you are still the same person that we know and love. It gives me hope knowing that the experts say that 95% of of alienated children will eventually reconcile with their Target Parent, despite of the Alienating Parent's disapproval. It gives me hope that the experts say that the NUMBER ONE factor in being reunited again depends on the quality of the relationship BEFORE the effects of Parental Alienation destroyed the bond. Also, the fact that I choose hope over hopelessness everyday, over and over every single day."
I added this message to that Parental Alienation Facebook friend:
That if I was able to give you even just a small amount of hope by saying all of this then that goes to prove that hope can come from the most unexpected sources. Best wishes to you & yours.
(By the way, Rinda....Glad you made it back from Mexico, safe and sound. There's proof of another answered prayer. Glad you had a wonderful vacation !!!! )
Rinda, the following words are which I chose to use to answer that question.
"The Great Creator gives me hope, every single day. And certain facts give me hope, such as, the fact that when you were little girl, Rinda, you knew without a doubt that your Dad and I loved you unconditionally. You knew, that even though your mother spoke badly of us that we continually refused to EVER speak against her. You knew that we honored her just because she was your mother and the fact that she always would be your mother. The fact that we NEVER did a single thing to cause or to deserve to lose the love, trust and respect of our precious little 9 year old daughter. It gives me hope that you turned 18 years old last week and that eventually you will become an emotionally mature young woman which lives in the real world and will no long be in an environment in which you are being used as a weapon against your Dad & I. The fact that I know your heart and I know that somewhere deep inside you are still the same person that we know and love. It gives me hope knowing that the experts say that 95% of of alienated children will eventually reconcile with their Target Parent, despite of the Alienating Parent's disapproval. It gives me hope that the experts say that the NUMBER ONE factor in being reunited again depends on the quality of the relationship BEFORE the effects of Parental Alienation destroyed the bond. Also, the fact that I choose hope over hopelessness everyday, over and over every single day."
I added this message to that Parental Alienation Facebook friend:
That if I was able to give you even just a small amount of hope by saying all of this then that goes to prove that hope can come from the most unexpected sources. Best wishes to you & yours.
(By the way, Rinda....Glad you made it back from Mexico, safe and sound. There's proof of another answered prayer. Glad you had a wonderful vacation !!!! )
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Good Advice Deserves Repeating
Rinda, this is what I wrote for your 16th Birthday. Good advice deserves repeating !
Monday June 9, 2008
Today is my stepdaughter's sixteenth birthday. My precious little girl is no longer so little.Today she is only two short years from becoming a legal adult. I'm writing this blog to preserve it as a somewhat permanent record of this special day. The birthday card may be forgotten, lost or thrown away, so I wanted to put it on my blog to record it for the future. I am going to include the wording on the birthday card as well as the note that I included in her card.
This is the birthday card that I chose for her 16th birthday:
HOW TO MAKE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
"Reflections For A Daughter On Her Birthday"
LOVE YOURSELF.
MAKE PEACE WITH WHO YOU ARE
AND WHERE YOU ARE
AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.
LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.
IF YOU CAN'T HEAR WHAT IT'S SAYING
IN THIS NOISY WORLD,
MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.
ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY.
LET YOUR MIND WANDER AMONG THE STARS.
TRY.
TAKE CHANCES.
MAKE MISTAKES.
LIFE CAN BE MESSY
AND CONFUSING AT TIMES,
BUT IT'S ALSO FULL OF SURPRISES.
THE NEXT ROCK IN YOUR PATH
MIGHT BE A STEPPING STONE.
BE HAPPY,
WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE WHAT YOU WANT,
WANT WHAT YOU HAVE.
MAKE DO.
THAT'S A WELL-KEPT SECRET OF CONTENTMENT.
THERE AREN'T ANY SHORTCUTS TO TOMORROW.
YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR OWN WAY.
TO KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING
IS ONLY PART OF IT.
YOU NEED TO KNOW WHERE YOU'VE BEEN, TOO.
AND IF YOU EVER GET LOST, DON'T WORRY,
THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU WILL FIND YOU.
COUNT ON IT.
LIFE ISN'T DAYS AND YEARS.
IT'S WHAT YOU DO WITH TIME
AND WITH ALL THE GOODNESS AND GRACE
THAT'S INSIDE YOU.
MAKE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE....
THE KIND OF LIFE YOU DESERVE !
Here is my note to her.
Monday June 9, 2008
D.
On your 16th birthday I wish you all the best that the world has to offer. You've been through some hard times and there will be more ahead but it will make you a much stronger woman in the long run. Stay true to yourself, learn from mistakes, yours as well as those of others, be independent, study yourself to find your true purpose, enjoy simple pleasures, open your heart to those who honor and respect you, forgive those who don't. Don't let anyone tell you who you are - you SHOW THEM who you are by the way that you live your life. Over the years, you will change in ways that you'll never expect and the world will change in ways that no one will ever be able to anticipate. Change is the only factor in life that is guaranteed. Don't burn your bridges to your past, for the day may come that you'll want or need to cross back over them. No matter where you go or what you do, or what you become - my love, support and understanding are yours for as long as I live - 24 / 7 / 365. Remember I carry you always in my heart. With all my love, always....
Monday June 9, 2008
Today is my stepdaughter's sixteenth birthday. My precious little girl is no longer so little.Today she is only two short years from becoming a legal adult. I'm writing this blog to preserve it as a somewhat permanent record of this special day. The birthday card may be forgotten, lost or thrown away, so I wanted to put it on my blog to record it for the future. I am going to include the wording on the birthday card as well as the note that I included in her card.
This is the birthday card that I chose for her 16th birthday:
HOW TO MAKE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE
"Reflections For A Daughter On Her Birthday"
LOVE YOURSELF.
MAKE PEACE WITH WHO YOU ARE
AND WHERE YOU ARE
AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.
LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.
IF YOU CAN'T HEAR WHAT IT'S SAYING
IN THIS NOISY WORLD,
MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF.
ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY.
LET YOUR MIND WANDER AMONG THE STARS.
TRY.
TAKE CHANCES.
MAKE MISTAKES.
LIFE CAN BE MESSY
AND CONFUSING AT TIMES,
BUT IT'S ALSO FULL OF SURPRISES.
THE NEXT ROCK IN YOUR PATH
MIGHT BE A STEPPING STONE.
BE HAPPY,
WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE WHAT YOU WANT,
WANT WHAT YOU HAVE.
MAKE DO.
THAT'S A WELL-KEPT SECRET OF CONTENTMENT.
THERE AREN'T ANY SHORTCUTS TO TOMORROW.
YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR OWN WAY.
TO KNOW WHERE YOU'RE GOING
IS ONLY PART OF IT.
YOU NEED TO KNOW WHERE YOU'VE BEEN, TOO.
AND IF YOU EVER GET LOST, DON'T WORRY,
THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU WILL FIND YOU.
COUNT ON IT.
LIFE ISN'T DAYS AND YEARS.
IT'S WHAT YOU DO WITH TIME
AND WITH ALL THE GOODNESS AND GRACE
THAT'S INSIDE YOU.
MAKE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE....
THE KIND OF LIFE YOU DESERVE !
Here is my note to her.
Monday June 9, 2008
D.
On your 16th birthday I wish you all the best that the world has to offer. You've been through some hard times and there will be more ahead but it will make you a much stronger woman in the long run. Stay true to yourself, learn from mistakes, yours as well as those of others, be independent, study yourself to find your true purpose, enjoy simple pleasures, open your heart to those who honor and respect you, forgive those who don't. Don't let anyone tell you who you are - you SHOW THEM who you are by the way that you live your life. Over the years, you will change in ways that you'll never expect and the world will change in ways that no one will ever be able to anticipate. Change is the only factor in life that is guaranteed. Don't burn your bridges to your past, for the day may come that you'll want or need to cross back over them. No matter where you go or what you do, or what you become - my love, support and understanding are yours for as long as I live - 24 / 7 / 365. Remember I carry you always in my heart. With all my love, always....
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Have A Great Trip Rinda
On the ferry crossing from
Cozumel to Playa del Carmen,
Quintana Roo, Mexico 1988
Cozumel to Playa del Carmen,
Quintana Roo, Mexico 1988
Have a great trip Rinda. I know that you and your boyfriend, S. are flying to Mexico today for vacation. Be careful and have fun and please do make good choices. Remember you can do something in an instant that will cause you a lifetime of regret. I also know that this is your second trip to Mexico (you went to your sister's wedding in 2007).
Remember when you were a little girl and we would sit and look at my photo albums of my many trips to Mexico ? You loved listening to the stories of my adventures. You would say "please, just tell me one more story about Mexico". We talked so much about our plans to go to Mexico as a family, you, your Dad and I. Well, instead it looks like you are exploring Mexico on your own now (you & S).
When you see the ferry that goes from Playa del Carmen to Cozumel, that is where your Grandpa Big John and I took those photos during our trip in 1988. Hey, maybe that monkey that you liked the picture of so much will be there to greet you when you arrive. Tell him hello for me. I'm sure you and S. with have the time of your lives. Enjoy yourselves !!!!
But remember Dorothy you are not in Kansas anymore.....
Remember when you were a little girl and we would sit and look at my photo albums of my many trips to Mexico ? You loved listening to the stories of my adventures. You would say "please, just tell me one more story about Mexico". We talked so much about our plans to go to Mexico as a family, you, your Dad and I. Well, instead it looks like you are exploring Mexico on your own now (you & S).
When you see the ferry that goes from Playa del Carmen to Cozumel, that is where your Grandpa Big John and I took those photos during our trip in 1988. Hey, maybe that monkey that you liked the picture of so much will be there to greet you when you arrive. Tell him hello for me. I'm sure you and S. with have the time of your lives. Enjoy yourselves !!!!
But remember Dorothy you are not in Kansas anymore.....
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Cat Stevens - Wild World with lyrics
I dedicate this song to Rinda on the eve of her 18th birthday.....
It's a wild world and it's hard to get by on a smile !!!!!
SHS Class of 2010
Tonight is your graduation night. As we speak, you, the SHS Class of 2010 are dressed in caps and gowns ready to walk across the stage to receive your diplomas. Rinda's best friend since 3rd grade will be one of those students. V. has had an amazing high school experience. In her academic endeavors as well as her extra curricular activities she has excelled. We are so happy for her today because not only is it her graduation day is also her 18th birthday. A day that I'm sure that she will never forget. Congratulations V. We love you and wish you all the best always.
We had big plans and big dreams about this day as well. I had planned to be present as SHS Class of 2010 walked across the stage. But that was back before Rinda became ineligible to graduate due to lack of credits due to truancy due to parental alienation.
Although she is not on that stage, I am certain that she is there as a spectator since all of her friends are receiving their diplomas. I wish that I could be there as a spectator as well. For years we talked about being there as she graduated, but as our hopes and dreams were destroyed by parental alienationright along with Rinda's ability to see us as a part of her family. This is the last night that Rinda will ever be a 17 year old. Tonight is one of the most important nights of her life and I wish her all the happiness in the world. Tomorrow when she wakes up, she will legally be an adult and not "our" little girl anymore, although in our hearts she will always remain. She will finally be free from her Dad and I as she has wished for soooo long. All there is left to say is: Please Lord, hold her hand and guide her life in a positive direction.
May Rinda and her friends have the time of their lives. Hey, SHS Class of 2010............... the future belongs to you !!!!
We had big plans and big dreams about this day as well. I had planned to be present as SHS Class of 2010 walked across the stage. But that was back before Rinda became ineligible to graduate due to lack of credits due to truancy due to parental alienation.
Although she is not on that stage, I am certain that she is there as a spectator since all of her friends are receiving their diplomas. I wish that I could be there as a spectator as well. For years we talked about being there as she graduated, but as our hopes and dreams were destroyed by parental alienationright along with Rinda's ability to see us as a part of her family. This is the last night that Rinda will ever be a 17 year old. Tonight is one of the most important nights of her life and I wish her all the happiness in the world. Tomorrow when she wakes up, she will legally be an adult and not "our" little girl anymore, although in our hearts she will always remain. She will finally be free from her Dad and I as she has wished for soooo long. All there is left to say is: Please Lord, hold her hand and guide her life in a positive direction.
May Rinda and her friends have the time of their lives. Hey, SHS Class of 2010............... the future belongs to you !!!!
Friday, June 4, 2010
Today Is....
Today is different than all the other days before today
Today is the first day that Rinda MIGHT actually see this blog
Today is the day that she receives her birthday card in which I included the link to this blog
Today I will go from writing this blog about her -TO- writing this blog to her
Today there are only 4 days, 13 hours & 42 minutes left until her 18th birthday. When I first posted the countdown clock on my MySpace profile it had almost 4 years to count down. It's been a long hard four years. Actually it's been a horrendously painful 9 yrs since Rinda was "stolen" from her Dad and I....some things do not get better with time
:-( :-( :-( :-(
Today is the first day that Rinda MIGHT actually see this blog
Today is the day that she receives her birthday card in which I included the link to this blog
Today I will go from writing this blog about her -TO- writing this blog to her
Today there are only 4 days, 13 hours & 42 minutes left until her 18th birthday. When I first posted the countdown clock on my MySpace profile it had almost 4 years to count down. It's been a long hard four years. Actually it's been a horrendously painful 9 yrs since Rinda was "stolen" from her Dad and I....some things do not get better with time
:-( :-( :-( :-(
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
My LAST letter 2 Rinda B4 Her Childhood Ends...
June 9, 2010
Rinda....Happy Birthday to My Chula on your 18th birthday. On June 9, 2010, YOU will be legally an adult and you WILL be able to make your own decisions... NOW you really do have the right to choose.... I am "LETTING GO" but I am not "GIVING UP", I never give up on the people I love. My birthday gift to you is freedom. You are now officially FREE to live your life as you please !!!!!
If you think I have forgotten...I have not. If you think I have given up....I never will. You are a grown woman now, although NONE of these family problems/issues are your fault, Because they never have been your fault. I have NEVER blamed you for anything. But now YOU are the person that will be held accountable for every moment of every day from now on. At the stroke of midnight on the eve of your birthday, you DO inherit everything that has happened....it becomes YOUR legacy of pain....YOU own it....it is NOW yours....it belongs to YOU. It is not what I would have chose for you but I had no choice in the matter. I fought for the past 9 years to save you and your childhood from the damage that parental alienation causes.
I know that it is too painful for you to search for the truth right now, but YOU will never have any peace until you find all of the missing pieces. I have kept all the proof, whenever you are strong enough and brave enough to look at the situation with an open mind....let me know. I will give you every detail that I have saved for you. If you do not choose to be a member of this family before the day of my death, I will leave instructions with someone else to hold on to all of the evidence of the facts for you in case someday you do want to know the truth of WHY & HOW your childhood was hijacked. If you wait too long you will miss the opportunity, but as long as your Dad & I are still living....it will never be too late.
Our door will always be open to you....our arms will always be reaching out to you and in our hearts you will forever remain. FOREVER NO MATTER WHAT !!!!
Please learn how to forgive, Rinda. It is the key to a happy life. Without learning to forgive you will continue to scar your own heart, which in the long run will hurt YOU much more than it will hurt the people that you refuse to forgive.
Remember there is NOTHING that you can do to stop us from loving YOU.... Love is a choice and you chose to love me way back then, when you were 7 years old. I chose to accept that love and love you back. For me that will never change. It is all in YOUR hands now. You told me in 2008, that YOU will come back to me. You said that you will give me that chance to re-earn your LOVE, TRUST and RESPECT..... I will wait for that day to arrive.....someday.
Please know that you remain forever in my heart. Good Luck Rinda.....NOW..... go conquer the world and have an amazing life ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
Rinda....Happy Birthday to My Chula on your 18th birthday. On June 9, 2010, YOU will be legally an adult and you WILL be able to make your own decisions... NOW you really do have the right to choose.... I am "LETTING GO" but I am not "GIVING UP", I never give up on the people I love. My birthday gift to you is freedom. You are now officially FREE to live your life as you please !!!!!
If you think I have forgotten...I have not. If you think I have given up....I never will. You are a grown woman now, although NONE of these family problems/issues are your fault, Because they never have been your fault. I have NEVER blamed you for anything. But now YOU are the person that will be held accountable for every moment of every day from now on. At the stroke of midnight on the eve of your birthday, you DO inherit everything that has happened....it becomes YOUR legacy of pain....YOU own it....it is NOW yours....it belongs to YOU. It is not what I would have chose for you but I had no choice in the matter. I fought for the past 9 years to save you and your childhood from the damage that parental alienation causes.
I know that it is too painful for you to search for the truth right now, but YOU will never have any peace until you find all of the missing pieces. I have kept all the proof, whenever you are strong enough and brave enough to look at the situation with an open mind....let me know. I will give you every detail that I have saved for you. If you do not choose to be a member of this family before the day of my death, I will leave instructions with someone else to hold on to all of the evidence of the facts for you in case someday you do want to know the truth of WHY & HOW your childhood was hijacked. If you wait too long you will miss the opportunity, but as long as your Dad & I are still living....it will never be too late.
Our door will always be open to you....our arms will always be reaching out to you and in our hearts you will forever remain. FOREVER NO MATTER WHAT !!!!
Please learn how to forgive, Rinda. It is the key to a happy life. Without learning to forgive you will continue to scar your own heart, which in the long run will hurt YOU much more than it will hurt the people that you refuse to forgive.
Remember there is NOTHING that you can do to stop us from loving YOU.... Love is a choice and you chose to love me way back then, when you were 7 years old. I chose to accept that love and love you back. For me that will never change. It is all in YOUR hands now. You told me in 2008, that YOU will come back to me. You said that you will give me that chance to re-earn your LOVE, TRUST and RESPECT..... I will wait for that day to arrive.....someday.
Please know that you remain forever in my heart. Good Luck Rinda.....NOW..... go conquer the world and have an amazing life ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
E I G H T E E N
E - enthusiasm: for life and everything that it holds in store for your future. esteem: to know how valuable you are & to be able to regard other with respect. eccentricity: to have the courage to be different when the world tells you that you must follow the path that is considered to be the norm. enlightenment: to give you a wide variety of knowledge, contentment & spiritual guidance.
I - intuition: to know what is right for yourself & others. idealism: so that you can set goals & strive toward them. identity: I hope you find your early. imagination: so that your thoughts will be original & really yours.
to
G - gratitude: to always be thankful & really know how to appreciate life's many blessings, which often are concealed in a disguise of tribulation. giddiness: to be able to be silly when the situation calls for it. genuineness: to be real in a world that reward imitations. grit: to be tough enough to take care of yourself others in a dangerous world. gentleness: to be able to enjoy the kind, sweet moments in life without fear of being regarded as weak.
H - happiness: the real kind, that dwells in your mind, body & soul. The kind that no one can take away from you, the kind that you will be able to share with others. health: to be able to live a long life with good physical health, mental health & emotional health. Your health will determine your ability to enjoy all the other aspects of life. hardiness: to be able to survive & even thrive under potentially unfavorable conditions. harmony: to be able to live in peace with yourself as well as others.
T - time: to grow & learn while you still have the shelter of your home & your family. tenderness: so that you can be soft & loving without embarrassment. tolerance: for this world & the people in it that you really don't understand. thankfulness: for all that you have & all that you receive, even for the world around you.
E - existence: which your parents gave you 18 years ago. experience: this we must let you earn for yourself although we will gladly share with you what we've earned. eagerness: with which to meet this new world which you are entering as an adult.
E - empathy: so that you can put yourself in the other person's shoes & understand what they are feeling. emotion: don't be afraid of your emotions, but do learn to control them. equality: so that you may never be discriminated against.
N - nerve: of the good old bull-dog variety, so that you will never be afraid of life & of standing up for what you believe in. nonchalance: so that no one will be able to see how scared you are at times, as you go out into this big ole world.
THESE ARE JUST A FEW OF THE GOOD THINGS I WISH FOR YOU NOW ON YOUR 18TH BIRTHDAY AND ALWAYS. MAY ALL OF YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE.
WITH ALL MY LOVE, eoo
I - intuition: to know what is right for yourself & others. idealism: so that you can set goals & strive toward them. identity: I hope you find your early. imagination: so that your thoughts will be original & really yours.
to
G - gratitude: to always be thankful & really know how to appreciate life's many blessings, which often are concealed in a disguise of tribulation. giddiness: to be able to be silly when the situation calls for it. genuineness: to be real in a world that reward imitations. grit: to be tough enough to take care of yourself others in a dangerous world. gentleness: to be able to enjoy the kind, sweet moments in life without fear of being regarded as weak.
H - happiness: the real kind, that dwells in your mind, body & soul. The kind that no one can take away from you, the kind that you will be able to share with others. health: to be able to live a long life with good physical health, mental health & emotional health. Your health will determine your ability to enjoy all the other aspects of life. hardiness: to be able to survive & even thrive under potentially unfavorable conditions. harmony: to be able to live in peace with yourself as well as others.
T - time: to grow & learn while you still have the shelter of your home & your family. tenderness: so that you can be soft & loving without embarrassment. tolerance: for this world & the people in it that you really don't understand. thankfulness: for all that you have & all that you receive, even for the world around you.
E - existence: which your parents gave you 18 years ago. experience: this we must let you earn for yourself although we will gladly share with you what we've earned. eagerness: with which to meet this new world which you are entering as an adult.
E - empathy: so that you can put yourself in the other person's shoes & understand what they are feeling. emotion: don't be afraid of your emotions, but do learn to control them. equality: so that you may never be discriminated against.
N - nerve: of the good old bull-dog variety, so that you will never be afraid of life & of standing up for what you believe in. nonchalance: so that no one will be able to see how scared you are at times, as you go out into this big ole world.
THESE ARE JUST A FEW OF THE GOOD THINGS I WISH FOR YOU NOW ON YOUR 18TH BIRTHDAY AND ALWAYS. MAY ALL OF YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE.
WITH ALL MY LOVE, eoo
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
7 days 1 hour and 19 minutes left...
There are 7 days 1 hour and 19 minutes until Rinda's 18th Birthday. I've refrained from posting on my blog for a long time because I didn't want to undermine any possible positive develops from our long legal batttle. It has been so long since I've updated that most of you have probably forgotten about Rinda's situation. Here is where we stand: The social study stated that Rinda has been parentally alienated but that it is too late to do anything about it. The judge ordered that Rinda and her Dad attend counseling. It's been months of delays and cancellation plus some rescheduled appointments. Rinda finally did attend two sessions. She arrived at the 2nd session on May 12, 2010 to inform the counselor & Rinda's Dad that she would no longer be attending because it was a waste of her time and since her 18th birthday is approaching no one can make her attend. Our attorney has been telling us for months NOT to stress out over her 18th birthday, since she will NOT be graduating (due to excessive unexcused absences, due to the effects of parental alienation) and we are required to continue to pay child support, her medical and dental insurance that she will STILL be under the jurisdiction of the court and will be required to continue counseling. Rinda was shocked as she stated that it is her belief that her Dad has NEVER paid child support. He has been paying child support for almost 14 years now and she has been convinced that he is a deadbeat dad.Well, a few days ago, we received the bad news that Rinda will be free of us on June 9th. She will NOT be required to go to counseling. We were heart broken AGAIN. We will be required to continue to be financially responsible for her until she graduates which at this point is scheduled for 2012 when she is 20 yrs old. This year is her 4th year of high school. She has spent 3 years in 9th grade and 1 year in 10th grade. By the status of her grades & unexcused absences she will not make it to 11th grade this year either as her mother laughs all the way to the bank. What has occurred is immoral and it should be considered criminal to hijack a little girl's childhood when her only crime was to have the father that her mother chose for her.
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