A Rose By Any Other Name...

I stumbled across this blog titled Parental Alienation Witch Hunt quite by accident. It was an eye opening experience. I thought I would share it with my readers to see what your reaction is to the claims that the whole concept of Parental Alienation is just a, quote, "custody racket".

You can read it and make your own conclusion:Parental Alienation Witch Hunt: Action: Tell Your Governors To REJECT Declaration of Parental Alienation Awareness Day You can add whatever comments that you think are appropriate.

I do understand that the use of the term parental alienation could and most likely has been used in a manner that would not be appropriate. People have a way of taking something completely benign and turning it all around to misuse it for their own purposes despite the facts.

When an abusive parents uses the issue of Parental Alienation to gain access to a child, that is a terrible, terrible situation. Any caring human being would not support that. The laws and justice system have been and always will be manipulated by people with their own agendas.

I propose this challenge:
If you doubt the existence of parental alienation, then send your child to live with your worst enemy, who will prevent all contact between you and your child and see IF over time your child can be taught to hate you enough to disown you.

I've heard that Lady Justice is blind.....what a shame that she's apparently lost her ability to hear the suffering of the children and lost her ability to use common sense to help bring suffering children back into the arms of the parents who will REALLY do understand the definition of "In The Best Interest Of The Child"

Still Waiting...Hoping and Praying

We are still waiting....hoping and praying. Since the social study was ordered several month ago we have been anxious to "go through the process". When the date for our home visit was scheduled we were counting the days. SEPTEMBER 10, 2009, oh how we anticipated that date.



Well, a few weeks before that much anticipated date we received a telephone call from A.C. (our assigned social worker) to inform us that she would not be keeping that appointment.



WHY, you might ask? She said that she did not want to waste our money, since we had to pay additional money (beyond the fees already paid for the social study) for her expenses including fuel and hotel cost. We knew that she'd already warned us that it might not go in our favor and we wanted to continue the process anyway. Time is not on our side (8 months and 14 days left until Rinda's 18th birthday) and we are desperate to do anything that will be beneficial to Rinda's life and future.

According to the social worker who has already interviewed Rinda's Dad and Rinda's Mother, Rinda is an angry 17 year old and does not want any contact with her father and I. This is not new information, we already knew that. A.C. said that us filing petitions in court has only made Rinda even more mad that she already was.

We have heard from several sources about what an angry person Rinda has become, even for years before we actively began to legally intervene. The obvious question is WHY IS RINDA SUCH AN ANGRY YOUNG WOMAN ? ? ? ?

Does anyone ever question where all that anger comes from ? I'm not an expert, nor I do have a degree in psychology but I DO understand Rinda's anger. ANGER COMES FROM PAIN ! ! ! !

Rinda has plenty of reasons to be angry. Her heart has been held hostage since she was nine years old. Her childhood has been hijacked. One of the most valuable things in her life was taken from her against her will - her dad and all the love, understanding and support that he provided for her life since she was born. Rinda has reason to be angry - her needs have not been met. While she lives in a nice home, in a nice neighborhood and has plenty of material things, Rinda lives in poverty.....emotional poverty.

I have not been given the opportunity to interview yet (that was supposed to happen when A.C. made the home visit), but I have sent a letter to A.C. requesting the opportunity to interview with her in her office at the time and date of her choice.

So far, I haven't received a response to my letter, but I'm still waiting and hoping and praying that I will be allowed to speak with the person that holds Rinda's future in her hands. I've been in this family for ten years. I know Rinda's heart and I know that the investigation into her life will not be complete until all of her "parents" have been interviewed.

It's been a month, but I'm still waiting....hoping and praying.

Letter To Rinda From Bianca M.

Dear Rinda,

I know it's funny that I'm writing to you cause you don't know me but I know alot about you. Rinda you are someone very very special to my aunt and uncle. I am writing this letter to you to try to get you to understand how lucky you are to have two great people that love you soooo much. You should try to understand what side they are coming from. They love you so much. All you hear is Rinda this or Rinda that. They miss you soooo much, Rinda give them a chance. If you give them a chance you will not regret it. When I look into my aunt's eyes when she talks about you, it's love that I see in her eyes.

I NEVER KNEW THAT SOMEONE COULD HAVE SO MUCH LOVE FOR SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T EVEN LOVE THEM BACK.

The whole point of this letter is to let you know that they just want the best for you and they love you. Rinda, don't be blind, open your eyes and see what's going on in your life. I am not trying to preach to you, I was your age not very long ago, and I just wish I could go back in time, but guess what - you can't. You only have one life.

Just please try to give them a chance, please try. They are one of a kind. you won't feel bad that you did, I promise. I keep my word,. One day I am going to meet you and you're gonna thank me if you give them that chance and they can show you how much they love you. I wish I had such great parents like them. Well, I hope you know that they are always there with open arms for you, so it's all up to you sweetheart.

Sweetie, don't grow up so fast, take it easy. There is always time to have fun. Right now you should just focus on school and learn to be someone really great in life. Just go with the flow, one step at a time.

Well honey, don't forget these words. They love you so much, so don't let a chance go by and lose the chance to be a part of their lives. You only live once. Well, hope to meet you soon.

God Bless You, Bianca M. (age 21)

P.S. Take Care Rinda