Are You A Parental Alienator ? ? ? ?

Are You A Parental Alienator ? ? ? ?

1. Have you ever criticized or spoken negatively about the other parent or his/her family or friends in front of your child or where the child could hear you?

2. Have you ever forced your child to choose between loving the other parent and you?

3. Do you talk about child support, money, or legal issues in front of your child?

4. Do you ever limit time with the other parent because you feel that you are the best parent?

5. Do you ask the child to keep secrets, lie or hide things from the other parent?

6. Do you pump your child to get detailed information of where they go and what they do when they are with the other parent?

7. Do you ever prevent the child from speaking with the other parent by blocking phone messages, not returning phone calls, erasing email messages or not giving them mail or gifts?

8. Do you interrupt the child's time with the other parent by calling too much or planning activities during their time with the other parent?

9. Do you deny your child the right to spend designated time with the other parent?

10. Have you ever sabotaged any activity that your child was doing with the other parent?

11. Do you encourage your child to blame the other parent or to choose sides?

12. Do you use your child as a therapist or your special friend to share your deep and upsetting emotions with the child?

13. Do you let your child know that you feel badly when he/she has a good time with the other parent?

14. Do you ask your child to spy for you while with the other parent?

15. Do you make a contest of how much love, care, and attention the child gives to the other parent and his/her family and friends versus how much attention you receive from the child?

16. Do you ever instill guilt, pressure or rejection of the other parent in your child?

17. Have you ever made false accusations, such as implying drug abuse or inappropriate sexual behavior to the police or Department of Child and Family Services?

18. Do you stop your child from expressing his/her feelings (love,happiness,excitement,anger,fear or sadness), whether you agree with them or not?

IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS, YOU NEED TO EVALUATE TO WHAT EXTENT YOU ARE ENGAGING IN PARENTAL ALIENATION. CHILDREN NEED TO BE FREE TO LOVE BOTH PARENTS. IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE OTHER PARENT OR FEEL THAT THEY ARE INAPPROPRIATE FOR YOUR CHILD, YOU NEED TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM WITHOUT RESORTING TO DESTROYING THAT CHILD'S RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER PARENT. YOU CHILD CAN MAKE UP HIS/HER OWN MIND ABOUT HOW MUCH THEY LOVE OR EVEN LIKE THE OTHER PARENT WITHOUT BEING UNDULY INFLUENCED BY YOU. OBSESSED PARENT ALIENATORS WILL STOP AT NOTHING TO DAMAGE OR EVEN SEVERE A CHILD'S RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER PARENT. THIS IS A SERIOUS FORM OF CHILD ABUSE WHERE A CHILD IS NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE LOVING FEELINGS FOR THE OTHER PARENT OR HIS/HER EXTENDED FAMILY AND FRIENDS. THESE PEOPLE REPRESENT HALF OF THE CHILD'S HERITAGE. MOST PARENTS SLIP UP ONCE IN A WHILE, HOWEVER, PARENTS WHO REALLY CARE ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN'S BEST INTEREST WILL DO ALL THEY CAN TO KEEP THEIR CHILD OUT OF THE MIDDLE AND ALLOW THEM TO LOVE BOTH PARENTS.

*********THE BEST PARENT IS BOTH PARENTS***************